Dearest readers, do you have any friends or family members who are particularly stubborn or defiant? If you do, you know they are not the easiest people to deal with. Right? Right? You see, you have just accepted my premise. This, dearest readers, is a topic worth talking about as we say goodbye to one year and enter a new one. New year, new you- right? Well, a new you can benefit from this powerful communication approach that I often use and you can benefit from it too.
So, back to that premise I just had you accept. I talked about stubborn and defiant family members and/or friends you may have, and I created the premise where I defined these qualities as difficult to deal with. If you agree to this premise, whether explicitly or implicitly, the entire topic that can develop from it is now based on that premise. Oh, and it just so happens that the premise was first introduced by me, and that holds power in the communication. It matters not as much if you hold the same premise, but it matters a lot if you have a different premise but you still accept mine without thinking or saying anything.
Now you may wonder well what other premise could you have in this particular case? Well, your premise could be that stubborn and defiant people are easy to deal with because you know their demeanor, their conviction, the strength of their belief in whatever they believe, and you know where they stand. So, at least you know their yes's and no's and you know what you are dealing with. That is actually an excellent alternative premise that does work in real life, and it may also make things easier for you.
Now, in this theoretical scenario, what would it mean to have two people getting into this topic but based on two different premises? Well, only a couple of possible outcomes come to my mind. A change of topic until they find topics where they share common or similar premises. Another outcome is that the different premises on a crucial topic mean that there is no common ground and no compatibility, so you part ways and move on.
It is that simple when you decide to be fearless and to express yourself as much as other people in your life- if not more. If people do not know any of your premises on different topics, issues and life paradigms, you will never connect with the right people and you will also fail to make deep connections.
This is especially true in dating, where establishing premises on which you will base your communication and interaction is very important. Remember, it is 2023 and almost 2024 and if you want to date you need to set yourself up for success more than ever before. You know me- I am not jealous if you see other girls so I do not mind helping you do so successfully ;) For example, if you are the type of guy who gets a lot of first dates easily but wants to live a healthy lifestyle and has a strict diet and workout menu, your first date premise may be that you are meeting the girl for coffee or something like that. If the girl you want to go out with does not share that premise with you or pretends to share it with you, you are going to have a bad time- especially if you end up with her long-term. If that is your premise, your reality, then that is what it is. Chances are that sticking with it will help you meet a girl who will really take you off the market.
Now, you may ask, well what about the power of influence, seduction, story telling and all that stuff? Surely you can seduce a girl into seeing things your way etc. Hmm, let me tell you. It is almost 2024. If you are in a bigger city where you have so many people and everyone is online, connected and dynamic, you do not have to live as though you are the last bachelor left in a medieval village, and the last available girl is someone you need to seduce and trick into falling for you or else you will be alone forever. For a real match, a match that will last, you need an ideological match that shares your premises on topics that matter to you.
Fair point, right? Now, you might ask, well what if I already am in a long-term relationship with someone who is not my ideological match and does not share many of my premises? The answer to that is daaaaamn! All jokes aside, confidence is key. If you start championing your ideas and beliefs in a polite yet firm way, and you do it semi low-key and not directed at her but simply as something that is a strong and nurtured part of you, she will begin to wonder what it is about your ideas and premises that is making you look, act and feel so amazing. If you do it right, she will want to jump on board sooner or later because, if nothing else, she will want to look, feel and carry herself the same way you do when you live out your premises and your ideas.
Best advice I can give you is this. If you are single, look for that ideological match. If it is taking a while to find someone because you are looking for quality over quantity- or if it simply feels like it is taking a while- book an appointment, feel amazing after, find your center again and continue the search. ;) In other words, do not go to the grocery store when you are hungry haha.
Enjoy the rest of the week. Mwah!
So, back to that premise I just had you accept. I talked about stubborn and defiant family members and/or friends you may have, and I created the premise where I defined these qualities as difficult to deal with. If you agree to this premise, whether explicitly or implicitly, the entire topic that can develop from it is now based on that premise. Oh, and it just so happens that the premise was first introduced by me, and that holds power in the communication. It matters not as much if you hold the same premise, but it matters a lot if you have a different premise but you still accept mine without thinking or saying anything.
Now you may wonder well what other premise could you have in this particular case? Well, your premise could be that stubborn and defiant people are easy to deal with because you know their demeanor, their conviction, the strength of their belief in whatever they believe, and you know where they stand. So, at least you know their yes's and no's and you know what you are dealing with. That is actually an excellent alternative premise that does work in real life, and it may also make things easier for you.
Now, in this theoretical scenario, what would it mean to have two people getting into this topic but based on two different premises? Well, only a couple of possible outcomes come to my mind. A change of topic until they find topics where they share common or similar premises. Another outcome is that the different premises on a crucial topic mean that there is no common ground and no compatibility, so you part ways and move on.
It is that simple when you decide to be fearless and to express yourself as much as other people in your life- if not more. If people do not know any of your premises on different topics, issues and life paradigms, you will never connect with the right people and you will also fail to make deep connections.
This is especially true in dating, where establishing premises on which you will base your communication and interaction is very important. Remember, it is 2023 and almost 2024 and if you want to date you need to set yourself up for success more than ever before. You know me- I am not jealous if you see other girls so I do not mind helping you do so successfully ;) For example, if you are the type of guy who gets a lot of first dates easily but wants to live a healthy lifestyle and has a strict diet and workout menu, your first date premise may be that you are meeting the girl for coffee or something like that. If the girl you want to go out with does not share that premise with you or pretends to share it with you, you are going to have a bad time- especially if you end up with her long-term. If that is your premise, your reality, then that is what it is. Chances are that sticking with it will help you meet a girl who will really take you off the market.
Now, you may ask, well what about the power of influence, seduction, story telling and all that stuff? Surely you can seduce a girl into seeing things your way etc. Hmm, let me tell you. It is almost 2024. If you are in a bigger city where you have so many people and everyone is online, connected and dynamic, you do not have to live as though you are the last bachelor left in a medieval village, and the last available girl is someone you need to seduce and trick into falling for you or else you will be alone forever. For a real match, a match that will last, you need an ideological match that shares your premises on topics that matter to you.
Fair point, right? Now, you might ask, well what if I already am in a long-term relationship with someone who is not my ideological match and does not share many of my premises? The answer to that is daaaaamn! All jokes aside, confidence is key. If you start championing your ideas and beliefs in a polite yet firm way, and you do it semi low-key and not directed at her but simply as something that is a strong and nurtured part of you, she will begin to wonder what it is about your ideas and premises that is making you look, act and feel so amazing. If you do it right, she will want to jump on board sooner or later because, if nothing else, she will want to look, feel and carry herself the same way you do when you live out your premises and your ideas.
Best advice I can give you is this. If you are single, look for that ideological match. If it is taking a while to find someone because you are looking for quality over quantity- or if it simply feels like it is taking a while- book an appointment, feel amazing after, find your center again and continue the search. ;) In other words, do not go to the grocery store when you are hungry haha.
Enjoy the rest of the week. Mwah!