This time around, I do recommend reading the article and then listening to my podcast episode related to it, but this is entirely up to you. 

Click here to listen.

Mwah! :)

​Dearest readers, we are back this week for another useful chat! Yes, as always, while I am not a financial advisor, I am an avid student of the markets and I focus on how it really works because, if you want to be successful at something and gain an edge, you need to first start with how it really works. Recently, the markets are down, things are getting crazy, crypto popped up on US strategic reserves announcement and soon those gains will fizzle out as well, and on and on we go. People do not know what to do. I am also wrapping my head around it. But, I wrap my head around everything that is going on in the markets based on the truth, or rather the principal operations, concepts and procedures based on which a market works. If I knew exactly how everything worked no matter what, I would be in a secure bunker in an undisclosed location, getting paid by crypto through a tornado service for my professional advice ahha. Instead, I am a truth seeker like many of you are as well. 

That said, let me share some truths and facts with you as I heard, understood, processed and tested them. 

Fact 1: 99 percent of us are not investors. You think that because you have a portfolio or a RRSP that you partially or fully self-direct, because you add to it or trade crypto etc, that this makes you an investor. I used to think the same thing. In the end, this is simply not the case. Investors are large institutions with people more intelligent than us who price in news, educated guesses and moves of competitor investment firms, and then their actions move the market out of sideways trading into an uptrend or a downtrend. What we call investing- contributing 100 or more per month into a RRSP and similar actions- this is us donating to large investment firms because they work with OPM and they charge us for it. Anything else you do like buying and selling crypto or stocks, that is trading. Buying into a bunch of stocks, then averaging up and down in this personally managed portfolio- that is you cosplaying as JP Morgan et al ( do not get upset, I clown on myself too). So, we have identified three things we do. We either give investment firms our money in installments and pay them for the privilege of investing for us, or we cosplay as one of the investment firms, or we trade. Out of the three, only two make sense. Guess which ones they are?

Fact 2: Growth is useless to us civilians; volatility plus compounding is EVERYTHING! Just like me, chances are you also fall into one of two categories of people. In the first category, you find people who did not recognize Amazon, NVIDIA, Bitcoin, Tesla, Meta, uBer as shares and crypto to buy EARLY. These same people feel sad about it, they think they learned how to recognize the next such crazy growth companies, but they are not making it happen because they confuse the study of hindsight as knowledge of foresight. Stock picking is extremely difficult, and holding stock after it double or triples and then dips, it is even more difficult than that. The second category of people got a little lucky with Bitcoin or some of these stocks, but they never got enough to retire and they never got lucky again with any other stock or crypto. The reason, again, is that luck does not equal skill or foresight. So, what do we need instead? Well, let us see here. How about a stock that pays dividends and also happens to fluctuate in a 20-35 percent range or so in 1-4 week cycles? How about them apples?! This is not useful to investors, or to boomers living off of their steady portfolios. This is not growth in the market. However, assuming something with 20 percent volatility in a 3 week cycle, and you catching 5 percent of it per cycle for a third of the year, breaking even a third of the year, and staying out a third of the year (the most miserable scenario, I know)- you are still looking at a compound gain of 31.6% percent per year! If you do not sit out one third of the year but do consistent gains during that time as well, you are now up to 71.6%! Sure, there are capital gains taxes but, at least here in Canada, they are based on your income tax bracket so it may not be too bad; also, going corporate is something you could do if this scenario existed for you out there. Now, combine that with your RRSP contributions and you have compounding short term gains that can amass to form a trading size good enough for an extra full-time level income, plus you have your retirement covered if all goes well. Sadly, it is not easy to find safe, range-bound stocks or ETF's out there that are propped up and also volatile with large swings. That does not mean there are zero out there.

Fact 3: Leveraged ETF's of indexes are an interesting trading product. Again, gentlemen, I am not a financial advisor- just a truth seeker- but these leveraged ETF's of different indexes seem interesting to me. Take SQQQ and TQQQ. SQQQ stands for ProShares UltraPro Short QQQ and, to put it simply, it goes up roughly 3 times the actual percentage the NASDAQ 100 Index goes down. TQQQ goes up 3 times the percentage that the NASDAQ 100 Index goes up. Now, I have not tried this yet but have manually tested it. Suppose you look at linear regression channel as an approach. you take either of these ETF's, and you have the following thesis. The NASDAQ 100 is not a penny stock, or a commodity, or a precious metal. It is real, it is an index, and by its nature it is diversified. As such, it is sorta propped up- which means it goes through calculated and controlled uptrends or downtrends. Also, unlike penny stocks, it does not surge 1,000 percent on bogus good news, then fizzle back down to under a dollar per share ahha until it is interesting again maybe in a year. It is always in play, always interesting, always traded, always supported by options trading activity as well. So, you still have no guarantees, but maybe you have a sense of safety. With that sense of safety, maybe you get brave enough to enter either ETF at a correct time frame when the price dips two standard deviations below the center line. Then, maybe you keep averaging down until the price gets to the middle line again, or it pierces the upper standard deviation line, or it pierces it and then you want until it retraces back down to the upper line. I dunno, I'm not you- I'm just spittin' lyrics here ahha! :P All I can say is that, while I do have balls, I would not have the balls to keep buying the dip according to a linear regression channel on any single stock, crypto coin or commodity. Excuse my language, but you could get fucked over buying the dip and the price would never recover to a point where you could sell for break even or profit. Let us face it. If you are stuck in an office for a 9-5, you could also miss a spike that is a chance for you to get out, and then you are even more fucked than you thought you could be. Again sorry, but using strong language is the only way to communicate this effectively so that it sticks! One thing that makes losses even worse is that you either do not cut your losses on time, or you use too big of a size do to greed and then it makes you nervous AF. Actually, this whole thing about markets and trading psychology, boy oh boy that should be a long, separate blog post! :P

There you have it, dearest readers. Three facts I did not like hearing because I was way more brainwashed then I am right now, but nevertheless they three facts/ideas I have learned to respect over time. There is so much more to explore, so much more to talk about, but this might be good enough for now. 

Wishing you a great weekend! Get some rest, have some fun, do some manual backtesting with SQQQ and TQQQ! :P

Mwah! :)

Here is the Spotify podcast version of this article, discussed by two co-hosts! :) I cannot believe I am up to Episode 7! :P

Click here and enjoy! :)

Dearest readers, or should I say gentlemen (or babes—mwah!). Another week, another blog post. Anyone else ready for the weekend? I sure am! A nine-to-five plus extra hours sure adds up. For me, I work even longer if you count the time I spend being on-call and acting as my own receptionist. (Most of you are amazing, but I still cannot trust another human being with the screening process—FML...) Now, while being on-call does not allow for many fun activities that require full attention, I still get to do a lot of research and educate myself on different topics in shorter bursts. Plus, I get to reach out to my go-to experts via text and bug them with more complicated questions than they are ever ready to answer! :P That said, I recently came across some interesting health and nutrition insights that I have already applied and found incredibly useful—both for everyday health and especially if you are looking to trim some weight in time for summer! :)

Without further ado, let us dive in. ;)

While I still appreciate many aspects of keto and carnivore diets, I have also learned to reevaluate my stance on sugar. I like the idea of cutting back on starchy foods and eliminating gluten if you have a sensitivity. However, I have personally experienced issues with completely removing entire food groups, and I think this is something keto and carnivore supporters do not talk about enough. Sure, sometimes you need a strict carnivore diet and calorie restriction if you are very sick or significantly overweight. Other times, you need to eliminate high-oxalate and high-lectin foods—maybe permanently. In other cases, you need to pay close attention to your blood sugar. But overall, for an average healthy adult, drastic measures are not necessary.

I have experimented on myself and noticed that when your body goes without certain foods for a while, then you reintroduce them, your blood sugar spikes way too much. This happens because your body no longer reacts with insulin as effectively as it once did. Ideally, you want your food converted into energy (glucose, if you are not on keto or carnivore) as quickly as possible, which is an excellent sign of metabolic health and adaptation. Through trial and error, I have come to appreciate a balanced approach to food variety again. By "balanced," I mean avoiding excess, excluding anything you cannot tolerate, and steering clear of allergens. On top of that, I lean towards overall carbohydrate restriction, but more in the sense of limiting starch rather than sugar—because sugar is pure energy.

Now, you might argue that this approach would lead to energy crashes if I am not consuming enough carbohydrates but still not in ketosis. Well, let us set aside the fact that we store around two thousand calories of glucose in our muscles and liver. Our bodies can immediately switch to ketones if necessary. The infamous "keto flu"—that lack of energy, brain fog, and weakness—is actually just an accidental electrolyte deficiency that happens when starting these diets. I know, I know—mind-blowing, right? :) How do I know this? It all comes down to mitochondria—the power plants of human cells. If they stop producing energy for even less than a second, you die instantly. (Fun fact: That is how cyanide works—scary stuff—it disrupts mitochondrial energy production.)
Given this, the human body may struggle to deliver fuel efficiently at times, but it never stops—whether through glucose metabolism or ketosis. It literally cannot stop.

So, where does that leave us? No matter what diet you follow—whether maintaining, losing, or gaining weight—you need to watch your electrolytes. Sodium and potassium are key, though calcium, magnesium, and phosphorus also play important roles. But one piece I had been missing? Sugar. Pure sugar—or sugar with as little starch as possible. I have started benefiting from what I call the Holy Trinity of Energy, regardless of diet: sugar, salt, and potassium. Sweet and salty—but keeping starch to a minimum!

This reminds me of a time when I tried a routine of having a small breakfast and dinner with lots of protein, moderate calories, and consuming mostly liquid smoothies throughout the day (homemade, careful with calories, little to no milk). I got the sugar and potassium part right, but I neglected salt, and I think that is what eventually led to unhealthy cravings. My body was looking for salt. And trust me—high-quality, flavorful salt can not only be snuck into a smoothie, but it can also enhance its sweetness, making it taste, hmm… how do I put it—stronger? More defined? :)

Everyone’s needs differ, but I have also found benefits in using half-salt (a blend of sodium and potassium). The latest RDA suggests we need at least three thousand milligrams of potassium daily, and the optimal sodium-to-potassium ratio should be around one to two (e.g., one thousand five hundred milligrams sodium, three thousand milligrams potassium)--unless you have a medical condition requiring a different balance.

What benefits have I noticed? First, I rely less on coffee as a stimulant. Whether they follow keto, carnivore, or a standard diet, most people I know struggle with energy levels and poor sleep. Their solution? More coffee, stronger tea, and other stimulants. But as we all know, coffee is just borrowing energy from tomorrow to use today. Since introducing a balance of salt, sugar, and potassium into my smoothies, I have noticed I need less coffee (who knows, maybe I will ditch it entirely?). Another perk? Eating less but feeling less hungry. It is a weird sensation—feeling like your stomach is empty, but still having plenty of energy.

So, while I am not a doctor and this is all amateur advice as always, us amateur truth-seekers need to help each other out! :P And what perfect timing—March is almost here, and summer will be upon us sooner than we think (even in Canada, haha).

Wishing you all an amazing weekend, and until next time--

​Stay awesome! :)

Dearest readers, or more like dearest gentlemen and the odd girl here and there who reads my blog! How was your week so far? :) More importantly- how is work going? Is it feeling kinda stupid? I do not mean boring, repetitive, challenging or too easy or anything like that- I truly mean stupid. I have been quietly discussing this with people behind the scenes- executives, white collar and blue collar professionals, employees, job seekers, recent grads... Whether you are a boss or a worker, a manager or someone answering to a manager, chances are you are quietly admitting that the job market and the workplace dynamics have become stupid. On top of that, influencers and mainstream media alike keep pushing this stupidity to new heights. 

Let us go through some of these stupidities together, give you some talking points or reinforce your existing ones. 

First, the whole thing with ghost job postings in all of N.A.- complete crap. This is pure stupidity and pure evil by companies that do this. They say oh we need a database of great candidates. Yeah no... Most jobs you can pick anyone for; jobs that require someone unique... they are hard to find and rarely available and get scooped up quickly so your database of their resumes is useless. They are creating the image they are growing, or they are about to replace low performers so they scare them, or they make our economy look better than it really is. Finally, they encourage people to occupy more of their time applying than exploring alternatives to get their money right! 

Second, let us talk about the performance. Now I am really going to blow your mind. They talk about quiet quitting. What a load of stupid crap that is! The media, corporate overlords and others say that if people stick to their job descriptions and deliver on it instead of running super hard on their little hamster wheel, that means they are covertly quitting in some way. Stupid, stupid, stupid. I am very afraid for our economy and our collective future here when it is being run by so little knowledge. Do you know the basic economic principle of exchanging money for goods or services? You think you do? Let us go over it again with an example. Let us say you are a boss who needs someone to do a job for them for 60K per year. Let us then say there is someone qualified for that job who wants to do it for 60K. What the f*** does that mean?! It means that the 60K you are getting is worth to you more than your time and effort, otherwise you would not take the job for 60K. Now, your price may subjectively change or not, you may be in a rut or not, but at that point money is worth to you more than your time, effort and energy. To the boss, the work that you will do in that job is worth more than 60K he is paying for it! BOOM! Mind blown! So, if you have a few brain cells to rub together, you realize that you doing your job exactly according to the job description or reasonable interpretation of it is already a great deal for your boss. So, why the hell would you do more? To get promoted? In any honest company, it is your time with the company, your knowledge of the business, and your rapport with people that ought to give you the promotion- not going above and beyond when according to basic economic principles your boss is already getting a great deal by you just doing your job! Now, you may ask well what if the boss miscalculated or lied to get you through the door? Or what if I lied and 60K is not enough for me? Well, that is called negotiating in bad faith and that can carry punitive and other penalties if taken to court. Sure, you can say well real life is messier and crazier than that. Well sure it is, if all you do is live messy and participate in other people's messes so often and so deep that you sadly forget what a clean life setup even looks like. That is fine too, even I am far from perfect, but you need to set the bar high or else we are all collectively going down the economic toilet ahha! :P

Finally, companies are complaining that younger generations do not know how to work, how to problem solve on their own, and constantly need hand holding. Well, who made them that way? I have seen with my own eyes how much elementary and high school teachers discourage you from finding your own best and strongest ways of doing projects, problem-solving and so on. You let youngest Gen Z and Gen Alpha play Minecraft and Roblox and Fortnite and Hell Let Loose (ahha if you know you know) and they figure out tactics, strategies, approaches to play the game to make shit happen and win in all sorts of ways. I would say they are more afraid of not getting it done the way they think authority figures above them want it done that they just go in for hand holding and they go for it hard! And sure, yes, there are certain things like company formats, templates, branding and tone that you cannot let employees mess with. Other things, however, should be left up to employees to figure out and develop their own skills and approaches. Period! :) Also, I am increasingly convinced this happens on a lower management level, the HR level and senior-junior coworker level. I think most senior management and CEO's or business owners do not realize this. The core reason? More and more people do not have kids, so they mother and father younger employees and they do helicopter parenting in the workplace with younger Gen Z and older Gen Alpha! Sheesh! :P 

So, there you have it dearest readers- I opened two cans: a can of worms and a can of whoopass! :P Do you have any systemic or other major issues in the job market and modern North American workplaces you want to share? Do you think we need a job seeker and workplace cultural shift towards something better and more common sense? Let me know if you like! :)
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Remember to check out the Spotify version of this article at my new podcast! https://open.spotify.com/show/3wIkiyBsm7gDYKHiyBMRHb

​Dearest Readers, today let us embark on a journey of self-discovery, where we peel back the layers of what it means to be a man. Sure, it is a little funny for more than a few reasons that I am the one bringing this topic up. However, in my tireless pursuit of gaining a better understanding of differences between men and women, I realized that I have been looking into women a lot more than men for a while now. So, time to bring some balance to this pursuit of mine. Luckily, I crossed paths with a behavioral psychologist or two in recent past, so I was able to do research on this topic a lot faster than usual too. This exploration is therefore not just for the gentlemen in our lives but also for anyone who seeks a deeper understanding of the dualities that shape human existence. Having done that, I came up with a fascinating concept: the idea that every man is, in essence, two men. Intriguing, is it not?

These two selves—distinct yet interconnected—guide men through the labyrinth of life. Let us call the first the "worldly man." This is the part immersed in the tangible world, where status, power, wealth, and relationships play pivotal roles. It is a realm of social games, where material success is both sought and measured. In stark contrast, the "spiritual man" resides in a domain of introspection and growth. This self is attuned to virtues, meaning, and the pursuit of enlightenment. It thrives on abstract concepts and the richness of spirit.

The interplay between these two selves is similar to parallel railroad tracks. Up close, they seem to diverge, each pursuing a distinct path. Yet, as they stretch towards the horizon, they converge into a single point. This metaphor illustrates how, at the highest levels of comprehension, the worldly and spiritual selves unify. However, for most guys navigating daily life, these tracks remain separate, influencing our actions and decisions in profound yet distinct ways.

Consider the worldly man. He is a master of matter, thriving on the accumulation and utilization of tangible assets. Spend a dollar, and you have one less—simple, practical, and straightforward. The spiritual man, however, dances in the realm of spirit. Use courage to face a challenge, and you find yourself more courageous. His currency increases with use, enriching the soul and fortifying the spirit.

In our everyday experiences, these realms often clash. Wealth does not inherently make one virtuous, and virtue does not guarantee wealth. This dichotomy can lead to an imbalance, where one self dominates at the expense of the other. Some men find themselves fully into worldly pursuits, viewing spiritual growth as naïve or irrelevant. On the other hand, those steeped in spirituality may disdain the worldly man, perceiving him as shallow or corrupted by material desires.

Yet, this antagonism is misplaced and even dangerous. The truth is that these two selves are not adversaries but allies. They support and enhance one another, merging seamlessly at the pinnacle of personal growth. A man who excels in worldly matters but neglects his spiritual self may achieve temporary success but risks long-term fulfillment and stability. Prudence and wisdom—virtues of the spiritual man—are essential for sustaining worldly achievements. After all, what is the point of conquering a castle if you cannot hold it?

On the flip side, spiritual growth without worldly influence can be insular and ineffective. What good is cultivating virtue if you lack the power to effect change? To heal, teach, or address societal issues, the spiritual man must engage with the world, wielding influence to bring about positive transformations. This interplay underscores the importance of nurturing both selves, creating a balanced and enriched existence.

The virtues of the spiritual man—perseverance, trustworthiness, and discernment—are invaluable assets in worldly success. Similarly, worldly concerns like attractiveness, aesthetics, and practicality can bolster spiritual growth. This symbiotic relationship highlights how each self complements and elevates the other, forming a dynamic and holistic approach to life.

Now, you might wonder how to navigate this duality effectively. The key lies in recognizing that every experience is an opportunity to strengthen either the worldly or spiritual self. When life presents ease and abundance, lean into your worldly self, maximizing what works and driving tangible success. Conversely, when faced with difficulties, embrace your spiritual self, using adversity as a catalyst for growth and resilience.

In this dance between ease and difficulty, we find the rhythm of life. The worldly man thrives on efficiency and progress, turning obstacles into opportunities. The spiritual man revels in challenges, using them to hone his virtues and deepen his understanding. Together, these selves create a virtuous cycle, propelling us towards a more comprehensive and enlightened existence.

As you reflect on this concept, consider how it resonates with your own experiences. Have you noticed the interplay between your worldly and spiritual selves? How do you balance the pursuit of material success with the quest for personal growth?
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In closing, remember that the journey to self-actualization is not a solitary endeavor. It is a path paved with insights, challenges, and shared wisdom. 
Have a great week and I hope you find this useful and even empowering.

Mwah! :)

Dearest readers,

If there is one thing we are not talking about enough in North America, it is how broken our employment landscape has become. It is not just about job shortages or economic downturns; it is about the human cost of a system that bounces people around like pinballs in a social services arcade, makes job searches feel like moving mountains, and leaves countless individuals falling through the cracks. This is not just an inconvenience—it is a societal failing of epic proportions.

In the medieval and ancient world (history is more important than most people think it is babe), people had a stark understanding of a truth we essentially forgot or decided to ignore: deprive someone of purpose and work, and you have effectively condemned them to death. Sure, we are wealthier now, and our safety nets are thicker, but that is exactly why this erosion of employment—and by extension, purpose—is so insidious. Our modern affluence, relatively speaking, has made our society complacent, disconnected from the fundamental reality that people need meaningful work like they need air and water.

Picture this: a capable, motivated person loses their job. They are optimistic at first, brushing off their resume, hitting up LinkedIn, and maybe even taking the classic “I will finally learn to code” detour (now largely useless due to AI and oversupply of highly educated software engineers). Weeks go by. Then months. Applications vanish into the void, interviews end in polite rejections, and the once-hopeful job seeker begins to spiral. Sound familiar? It is the story of more people than government statistics care to account for.

I took myself out of the job market, freeing up a good job for someone else. Most of my friends and family, however, are employees and are either working or fighting tooth and nail to get a chance to work. They all share the same story. Employers expect candidates to jump through flaming hoops—multiple interviews, endless assessments, and a near-existential commitment to customizing every cover letter. It is an exhausting exercise in gatekeeping that often feels more performative than productive. On top of that, automation and AI have added a dystopian twist. Applicant Tracking Systems filter out résumés before a human even glances at them. You could be the perfect candidate, but if your application does not have the right buzzwords? Into the digital abyss it goes. This technological coldness exacerbates the human toll: good people are sidelined, and desperation sets in.

For those unable to find work quickly, social services are supposed to be a safety net. Spoiler alert: they are more like a trampoline that propels people into chaos. Programs are often disjointed, poorly funded, and riddled with bureaucratic red tape. You have got unemployment benefits over here, job training over there, and maybe some housing assistance—but good luck connecting the dots.

Here is a hypothetical (yet painfully real) scenario: A good guy loses his job. He applies for unemployment benefits but discovers it takes weeks to process. Meanwhile, his rent is overdue. He seeks housing assistance but is told he does not qualify because he is still technically receiving some income. Desperate, he signs up for a job training program, only to realize it is a one-size-fits-none curriculum that does not align with his skills or career goals. Frustrated, he gives up and starts couch-surfing at a friend’s place. By the time any real help arrives, this guy is no longer employable—not because he lacks talent, but because he has been ground down by a system that treats him as a case number, not a person. Oh, and all he hears is take any job and how dare you have career goals or train for just one or two types of work! So entitled! You deserve to be destitute! This, dearest readers, is unacceptable and all of us know it. 

The medieval peasant, for all their hardships, did not have to deal with this nonsense. They tilled the land or learned a trade, knowing their labor contributed directly to their survival and that of their community. Today, we have traded that simplicity for an opaque maze of services that often fail the very people they are meant to help. What is the modern equivalent of a medieval peasant? Those in power hold up a mirror to us as they ask us this question.

And then there are the ones we do not see: the people who vanish entirely. They are not unemployed, officially. They are not showing up in statistics. They are just… gone. Maybe they are scraping by on gig work. Maybe they have stopped looking altogether, too disillusioned to keep fighting. Maybe they are part of the growing “NEET” demographic—Not in Education, Employment, or Training. When people fall through the cracks, we lose their potential contributions. Their creativity, innovation, and labor—all wasted. And while some may argue that social services are there to catch them, the reality is that many of these programs are reactive, not proactive. By the time someone falls far enough to qualify for substantial help, they have often lost the confidence and stability needed to rebuild.

Here is where we get to the heart of the issue. Our society must admit that our technological progress and greater wealth are not a rising tide that lifts all boats. Some people profited like crazy from iPhones; many others conveniently use it to job search and watch Netflix shows on a mattress they are renting in a Toronto basement for $700 per month. In the ancient world, leaders understood that keeping people employed and purposeful was not just good ethics; it was survival. If you had a city full of idle, desperate people, you did not have a city for long. Sure, sometimes they employed the bread and circuses tactic, but by and large  they also knew the importance of job creation in a world where resources, including food, were far more finite and infinitely more perishable.

So, how do we fix this? For starters, let us streamline social services. Enough with the fragmented systems. Employers need to rethink hiring practices too. Stop hiding behind automated systems and endless interviews. If someone can do the job, hire them. Then, in Canada, we really need to invest more in local economies and bring back community-based employment opportunities. Small businesses and local trades can provide purpose and stability in ways corporations cannot. Not everyone needs a four-year degree either, so we should prioritize vocational training, apprenticeships, and skills-based programs. Most importantly, we need a cultural shift that values work for its ability to provide identity and community, not just income.

We have strayed far from the wisdom of our ancestors, who knew that purpose was as vital as bread. The irony is that our wealth and technology, which should empower us to honor that truth, have instead made us blind to it. We are letting people slip away—not because we lack the resources to help, but because we forgot why it matters.

The employment crisis is not just an economic issue; it is a moral one. And until we start treating it as such, we will continue to lose not just jobs, but the very fabric of our society. A society that does not care about purpose is a society that does not care about people. And that is a future none of us should be willing to accept. Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, for any of its faults, does clearly state that every person, not just the wealthy and those in charge, needs to climb that ladder in their own life to their own extent. If deprived of that, the lid on top of the pot is suddenly a poorly secured lid of a pressure cooker or something to that effect, and we all know what that looks like. Time to find ways to simmer it down. 

Dearest readers, for my second episode I decided to reboot, in podcast format, another recent article that I privately received lots of praise for and people have found it useful. It just hits different as a podcast; might be the most useful 10 minutes of content in a while! :P After this, we are on to new articles, and every article will have its own podcast version!

Love you guys, hope you are having a wonderful time this holiday season and write to you again soon! ;)

Direct link: creators.spotify.com/pod/show/kim-z-dash/episodes/The-Powerful-Approach-of-Your-boos-mean-nothing-Ive-seen-what-makes-you-cheer-e2sqv4d

Dearest readers- what an amazing day it is today! The holidays are here, everyone is in festive cheer, life could be better but hey- could be worse too! :P Without further ado, here is a gift I have for you that I hope you would enjoy going forward. 

I know many of you love the blog; I do not plan on stopping it- ever! Still, it is somewhat of an old school platform by now and it needs a refresh- especially for those who would rather listen than read! :P Did I say listen? Yes I did! :)

Introducing, with a soft launch, my new podcast! With a little bit of AI magic (still to be tuned and improved as we go along), I have male and female co-hosts discussing my blog articles in true, lifelike and engaging podcast way! :) Follow the link below and check out Episode 1! The length is far shorter than your typical podcasts, but that may change over time. This first episode is based on a recent and somewhat controversial article I wrote, so whether you have read it or not, trust me- you want to hear the podcast version. 

My podcast is called "Your Thoughts Podcast" because I talk to many people from all walks of life- including many of you- when I explore topics and content that you care about. Follow the link below and enjoy! :)

​open.spotify.com/show/3wIkiyBsm7gDYKHiyBMRHb

Dearest readers! If there is one thing I know about our world today, it is that we have a lot of debate going on. We have always known that most communication has been about persuasion; this is why many cultures around the world (looking at you, Finland) do not waste words the way we do here in North America. Nevertheless, this is our state of things and, as we have gone through 5-10 years of reality fracturing into a multiverse of sorts, being able to debate when you must and say nothing when it suits you better is one of our most prized abilities that we have to keep developing. Now, and I am sure you noticed this too, there are many people out there and on social media that try to do ad hominem attacks and pull the whole holier than thou approach against you. Well, for most cases of this, here is a really excellent shortcut to disarm people like that. It begins with this awesome, awesome line from a Rick and Morty episode, but I am sure you and I can develop it into a powerful set of tools to turn annoying debates into TikTok-worthy viral moments ahha (or something)!

First, the line: "Your boos mean nothing, I've seen what makes you cheer!" Ummm... yeah... I am getting tingles all down my freakin' spine!!! :P Goosebumps too!!! 

As there is more than one take on this- just as there are multiple takes on most things in life, I will offer you something valuable by providing you with a more sweet one, and a more hardcore one. ;)

The sweeter take: The phrase reflects the power of personal understanding and authenticity. It means that external criticism or rejection—symbolized by the "boos"—holds little weight when you have witnessed and understand what truly drives people, what they value, and what excites them. In other words, the negative reactions from others do not matter as much when you have seen their true motivations and the things that inspire them. This line speaks to the strength of self-awareness and resilience. It reminds us that real influence comes not from trying to win over the loudest voices, but from understanding the deeper, more meaningful sources of support and validation. This take is not bad, but I feel it leans a little too much into the "me living my own truth, my lived experience, me me me..." type of ideology. Sure, it focuses on other people too, but not enough and not in a truly actionable way. 

The hardcore take: The phrase highlights a critical Machiavellian truth: often, those who criticize or oppose you are blinded by their own misconceptions and biases. People who boo are typically unaware of how wrong they are in their own beliefs, acting from a place of ignorance or shallow understanding. They might not realize that what they cheer for is often based on fleeting trends, social pressures, or half-formed opinions. In this light, their boos become meaningless because their worldview is limited. By recognizing this, you can remain unfazed by their negativity, knowing that true insight comes not from their approval, but from your ability to see beyond the surface and understand the deeper, more rational foundations of your actions and beliefs. Personally, I prefer this one ahha! ;)

Now, you may think that the hardcore version is a little rude, or that by following it you may not be open to criticism, learning and growth. That, dearest readers, could not be further from the truth. This is because may not have considered what a boo is. And no, I do not mean a romantic partner; I mean getting booed. Gaslighting, selective informing, people trying to cancel you online or offline or get you fired, ad hominem attacks, people attacking you because they suffer from the tall grass syndrome and more. Let us look what people like these cheer for:
-Gaslighters cheer for control, manipulation, and the ability to make others doubt their own reality.
-People trying to cancel you, both online and offline, cheer for power, conformity, and the ability to silence dissent.
-Those who resort to ad hominem attacks cheer for the ability to deflect from the real issues and target someone's character instead. 
-People suffering from the tall grass syndrome love trying to bring down successful people instead of finding ways to join them. 

Pretty useful stuff, right? Now, remember this well. Next time when people say they should judge you based on the company you keep, you remember this article well and say hey, maybe instead go ahead and judge me by who my enemies are! ;)

Have an amazing Thursday night guys, and have a great weekend! 


Mwah! :)



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*Hey guys, before you read this, I want to offer a foreword to my own post ahha! Look, I know this is written for guys yet it is about guys as if guys do not know themselves. That is not my intention. My intention is to provide ideas on how to better communicate and explain this topic to other people and help take the stigma off a major need I know you have. Time to legitimize it! ;)

Dearest readers, let us start with a truth bomb: relationships can be messy, complicated, and full of unspoken tension. Toss in the occasional mismatched libido, and suddenly, it is not just the dishes piling up—it is resentment too. Enter an unlikely hero: OnlyFans and pornography. Yes, you heard that correctly. Let us unpack how these two marvels of the modern world might not be the relationship wreckers everyone assumes they are. In fact, they might just be the unlikeliest of saviors, offering a unique outlet that gives men (primarily, though not exclusively) something they often crave while reducing the strain on their partnerships. Now, let us be real: for a lot of guys, sex is not just about deep emotional connection or making babies. Sure, those are meaningful layers, but at its core, sex often falls into a category that women sometimes find confusing: it is an activity, a stress reliever, even a hobby. Think of it like gaming or watching sports, except instead of jerseys and consoles, there is nudity involved. This perspective does not diminish the love or commitment you may feel toward your significant other; it is just a different kind of wiring. And here is where OnlyFans and pornography come in.

In traditional dynamics, men often lean on their girlfriends or wives to fulfill all their sexual needs. That can create fun times now and then, but the rest of the time it creates tension- especially if the libidos do not always match. And let us face it—libido mismatches are as common as mismatched socks. It is nobody’s fault; it is just biology doing its unpredictable thing. When one person constantly feels like the “gatekeeper” of intimacy, things can get dicey. Cue frustration, unmet needs, and you get relationship-wrecking tension.

Men have found outlets for many needs, norms and genetic drivers that have become socially acceptable over time. Moderate drinking, moderate legalized drugs (not the greatest start but hey...true), Call of Duty, playing sports, practicing martial arts... The only aspect of manhood that is still taboo in our society is the sexual outlet. Well, with OnlyFans and platforms like Pornhub, maybe we are on the road to this not being the case any more. 

Let us clear something up first: this is not about men preferring porn stars or OnlyFans creators over their partners. It is not even about dissatisfaction in the relationship. It is about compartmentalization. Just as a woman might go out for a jog to clear their head instead of hashing out every single stressor with their partner- or read a steamy romance novel with sex scenes bordering on consensual rape- men often use their preferred outlets as a way to scratch an itch without rocking the relationship boat. It is not emotional infidelity; it is more like a personal escape hatch.

For women who feel hurt by this, it is important to shift the narrative. This is not about a lack of attraction or love. Quite the opposite, actually. Having access to these outlets can make a guy less likely to put unfair pressure on his partner to fulfill every facet of his sexual appetite. It means fewer arguments over frequency or experimentation, and more room to appreciate the intimacy that does happen naturally. Think of it as outsourcing—not the core connection, but the extracurriculars.

There is another aspect to consider: variety. Yes, the dreaded word. Humans, by nature, are curious creatures. That does not change just because you put a ring on it. Variety does not mean a man loves his partner less or finds her less appealing; it is about novelty, plain and simple. And no, novelty does not have to threaten the foundation of a relationship. Platforms like OnlyFans offer a safe, virtual space where men can explore this novelty without the complications of real-world involvement. It is a controlled environment where curiosity can be satisfied without stepping outside the relationship. No awkward coffee dates, no emotional entanglements—just an acknowledgment of human nature.

This leads us to another sneaky benefit: better communication. Wait, what? Is porn not supposed to be the silent relationship killer? Actually, no. When handled openly and honestly, it can spark conversations that might otherwise feel too taboo to broach. A guy might learn more about his preferences, fantasies, or triggers and feel more comfortable discussing them with his partner. Likewise, a woman might feel less burdened to guess or meet every unspoken expectation. The key here, of course, is communication—acknowledging the existence of these outlets without secrecy or shame. The moment you de-stigmatize something, it becomes a lot less scary.

But what about the emotional side of relationships? Does this all sound a bit clinical, like sex is being reduced to a transaction? Not really. If anything, taking some of the performance pressure off sex can deepen emotional intimacy. When the act is not weighed down by unmet expectations or frustration, couples can enjoy each other in a more relaxed, genuine way. Sex becomes a choice, not an obligation, and that shift makes all the difference. There is something liberating about knowing your partner is not keeping a mental scorecard of how often you “deliver.” So, I guess you could say that porn, OnlyFans and really enjoying such content gives men a taste of the same power women have- the power to refuse sex as often as they go for it. The usual trope of a guy constantly begging for sex and the girl he is with constantly refusing it is something that proper utilization of porn and OnlyFans can make a trope of the past- leave it behind like a bad memory. 

Critics might argue that OnlyFans and pornography foster unrealistic expectations or set people up for disappointment in their real-world relationships. Sure, that can happen, but so can excessive scrolling through Instagram or binge-watching romantic dramas. The issue is not the medium; it is the lack of balance. When used responsibly, these outlets do not erode relationships—they strengthen them by providing a pressure valve.

And let us not forget the practical side of this equation: OnlyFans creators and adult performers are not physically there in your lives (unless we talk about someone like me ahha). There is no drama, no emotional baggage, no strings attached. For men, this can be a clean slate—a way to enjoy something visually or recreationally without complications. It is far from a replacement for the love and depth they share with their partner; it is an entirely separate lane on the relationship highway.

Of course, this perspective is not one-size-fits-all. Some couples might find the idea unsettling, and that is okay. The point is not to force everyone into a single mold but to offer a reframed way of looking at what has traditionally been seen as “threatening.” For many men, OnlyFans and pornography are not threats to their relationships; they are tools for managing an aspect of themselves in a way that keeps the partnership harmonious.

At its core, this is not about men wanting less from their partners—it is about wanting to protect what is most sacred in the relationship by meeting certain needs elsewhere. It is like hiring a babysitter to enjoy a stress-free date night. The babysitter is not replacing the parent; they are enabling a better experience for everyone involved.

At the end of the day, relationships are about balance, compromise, and understanding. If OnlyFans and porn help strike that balance by giving men a healthy outlet for their needs, then maybe, just maybe, they are not the villains they are made out to be. Instead, they are quiet contributors to a relationship dynamic that feels less strained, more stable, and—dare I say it—even a little more loving.